Grief is a strange emotion but a necessary one I've decided. It is a process that we all have to go through at sometime, whoever we are. One of my closest friends died a year ago today and I have struggled to come to terms with her departure. Yes, I am glad she is without pain but I miss her. A vibrant, funny, generous young woman, whose friendship I treasured and always will. Her passing made me think very seriously about my life (without meaning to sound too profound) and what I am about. Just recently I listened to and read posts on various blogs referring to Joseph Campbell's 'Following your Bliss' and afresh it has made me realise that it is never too late to do just that BUT it can take a long time to get there and you need to be patient. One of these days perhaps I will be able to bring myself to delete her last few texts from my mobile, I don't need to read them but I like to know that they will always be there. They comfort me. A bit like Bliss.....
Dear One, it seems that it's good to leave those last texts on your mobile, as long as it's comforting for you to do so. I think it's a lovely tribute to your friend, to still need them to be there, even if you aren't reading them often.
I'm probably one of those bloggers you saw mentioning Joseph Campbell. He is a very special person to me. And since it feels a lot like 'the sky is falling' around me, at present... It's time to get out some well worn books and re-read some passages. For comfort.
I have needed his words, both in joyful/freeing times, and in pain times. It happens to be pain time, at present.
And you are still feeling pain, from the loss of your friend. I would hope some of his words, could be of comfort to you too.
Do you have access to a compilation of some of his words, called "A Joseph Campbell Companion"? I have a long held paperback copy of this little book. I wish you had one too.
Mari-Nanci
Posted by: 'MN' | February 28, 2007 at 02:22 PM
That must have been a very sad day for you, the anniversary of your close friend's death. I have never heard of Joseph Campbell but have just looked him up on Google.
I have enjoyed reading your previous posts too and you are so lucky to have such a wonderful view.
Posted by: OhSoVintage | March 01, 2007 at 07:45 PM
Thanks for your kind comments. I will see if I can find the Joseph Campbell collection and I hope Mari-Nanci, that things improve for you very soon x
Posted by: Jane | March 02, 2007 at 06:41 PM
Hi Jane, How very sad for you. We have a very close friend who is terminally ill and know that we will have to deal with the grief soon enough. It is a wonderful thing to have known good friendship though, that is a comfort I'm sure. Clare x
Posted by: Clare | March 02, 2007 at 11:00 PM
I am sorry for your loss. Your friend sounds like she was a wonderful person. I lost my mother three years ago, and not a day goes by that I don't think of her and wish I could share things with her. My comfort is my sisters, as we all share traits that our mother possessed, so in a way she is still with us through each other.
Posted by: NIcole | March 16, 2007 at 05:08 PM